Who supports the parents and carers?
One of our Carer Community members recently asked “Where are the supports for parents and carers if you can’t use support hours or carers gateway?”
The frustrated mum shared, “I really don’t understand why we are left to struggle with zero intervention or help except the advice of medication or mindfulness. Yet when you’re a new mother it’s drilled into you to ‘put your oxygen mask on first’ and make sure we look after ourselves, otherwise we are no use to our child if we burn out!!!”
I absolutely agree.
There are SO many gaps in the system and so many stakeholders pointing fingers at each other.
My tips if you need some more support
If you have plan capacity please join us in Carer Community Private Group so we can start helping you float instead of drowning.
If not that’s ok too - use this free community as much as you can. There is a wealth of knowledge and support waiting for you.
Share specific details of your needs in the group to get more accurate questions, as Anonymous, in order to get more accurate answers without compromising your child’s privacy.
Please do try to think more about ‘Who’ than ‘How!’ Rather than, ‘how do I fix this problem?’ Think, ‘who can help this problem go away?’
I know it’s hard when you’ve been let down so many times before, and you have limited capacity.
But you are resilient, even though you didn’t want to be, and didn’t have to be. You are already connecting with your community even by posting about needing emotional support, and that makes you a great mum.
I hope you can access more of what you need, in the coming months, and maybe (hopefully!) give us an update in the coming years about the changes better supports have made to you and your family.
Loads of love from me personally, because I have been where you are and it was a very low time in my life. Community saved me.
